Forgiveness and letting go. Do it!

3/15/13  Forgiveness meditation

“FORGIVENESS FRIDAY” Reminder:

As we’ve all heard, forgiveness is ultimately the gift you give yourself, for if you are holding onto feelings of judgment, revenge, persecution or anger, you are functioning at the lowest vibration possible - a level that will not let you ascend to a place of inner peace, love and gratitude - and who wants to live there? And while you might already be aware that forgiveness is one of the most wonderful things you can experience, it is not easy. To grow your forgiveness muscles, we suggest that you start small. Acknowledge that, in many instances, what you need to forgive in another person is simply the fact that they did not think, say or do the same as you would have in any given situation. You can forgive someone for not having the same color of hair as you, right? So use that same logic when dealing with personalities. You can also try to imagine the pain or suffering that motivated someone to act the way they did – this will make it easier to forgive them. Finally, make a lifestyle choice to not take things so personally: If you do this, you will find that many offensive words and deeds will flow THROUGH you without sticking TO you. Now, one suggestion is to RARELY say the words, “I forgive you,” as this is very likely to sound sanctimonious and just escalate whatever tension there was between you and the offender. Instead, try using words like, “I want to move past this, how do you see us doing that?” or “I know it was not your intention to hurt me, but…” or “When you do things like this, it makes me feel….” Of course there are times when a person really might intend to hurt you, either physically or emotionally, and you will need to address these on a case-by-case basis. If this person has no desire to change their injurious ways, then this is the time to say, “I forgive you for the pain you’ve caused me, but I will no longer tolerate it. I love myself too much, and I will not keep exposing myself to the suffering you inflict.” At that point you leave with no ill wishes for that person and move on with your life. And as uncertain as that life may be, at least you will know that it won’t include any more pain and drama inflicted by the person you lovingly released.

Today’s breathwork/meditation suggestion: Take a few minutes right now to center and calm yourself. Breathe deeply and slowly, imagining that you can direct the energy of each breath into the 5th chakra/energy center located in your neck. It may help to visualize a color, so imagine a calming blue light flowing into your body and settling around your throat. As you do this, consider two of your most incredible powers: your right to choose and your right to act on the choices you make. While focusing your attention on your throat, remember that no one has power over you except yourself. Then, with a clear heart and mind, consider the person that is you. Are you acting in accordance with what you know to be good and true, or are you choosing to act in direct denial of your awareness? Your willpower and resolve are waiting for you to take a stand and live by what serves your highest good. If you have determined that some particular thing, person or habit is not healthy for you, you owe it to yourself to let go! Conversely, when you know what IS good for you, DO THAT GOOD THING! This is not brain surgery. This is simply you acting more frequently in accordance with your awareness, and the time to do this is right now. The throat energy center is the bridge between your mind and heart… keep it open!

 I believe that everything happens for a reason... People change so that you can learn to let go... Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right... You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself... And sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together... let go and forgive :)

Just trust that everything is unfolding the way it is supposed to... Don't resist... Surrender to what is... Let go of what was... And have faith in what will be...

Surround yourself with healthy minded and loving people that value you and love you as you are.  For peace for yourself and peace for the world, choose love. :)

Above all know that:  

"God knows who belongs in your life and who doesn't, forgive, trust and let go.  

Whoever is meant to be there will still be there."

2/26/2013  

Written by my wise soul brother, Kevin Cost. Life....

With each accumulating death of a loved one, on the timeline that is my life, I gain insight and wisdom that truly is a gift. Take a moment each day, no matter how brief, to celebrate and ponder the mystery and miracle that is this improbable thing called LIFE. Make it count, because every moment could be your last. Don't stay stuck in a situation you feel you have no control over. There is always choice. Even though the path may not be the easiest, and the concessions high, we are always in control of our own destiny, and how we respond to the variables along the way. They journey IS the destination.

 

 
2/15/13 A friend, Katie Maxwell-King posted this on Facebook today.  It is very healing, very true and relates to forgiveness and love....

I've got a choice...
"I can choose to continue to get swept into the madness, the fear mongering, the increasing levels of vitriole, the blatant and willful ignorance, and pure HATRED being spewed all over the airwaves right now, and out of the mouths of regular citizens.....with some of these citizens actually being people I have known for some time, and had previously thought to be good and caring people...
OR...
I can CHOOSE to see the spiritual SICKNESS that is underneath all of this....The moral deterioration taking place within the hearts of previously balanced and decent people, turning them into something other than fully human...and instead of hate and fear them, feel deep compassion and sorrow for them....They are losing touch with something essentially HUMAN- the ability to empathize with the pain and suffering of others..And for this, they are to be pitied, not hated...
It doesn't mean I won't still see the threat of this type of sickness....Their spiritual infection is contagious, and hurts others. I will still do whatever I can to counteract the damage they are doing...
But I don't have to HATE them in return. I don't need to dehumanize them....
I can fight for equality and justice, and still hold love, decency, honour and dignity in my heart...
I'm gonna try ♥"

"It's important to point out that you can forgive someone without ever having to see him/her.  You don't have to be face-to-face to forgive, because forgiveness happens on a spiritual level and affects your physical perception of the world."  Gabrielle Bernstein


Messages about forgiveness ..... 

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat... Known suffering... Known struggle... Known loss and have found their way out of the depths... These persons have an appreciation... A sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion... Gentleness and a deep loving concern...

I have learned that things don’t always turn out the way you planned or the way you think they should... I’ve learned that there are things that go wrong that don’t always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before... I’ve learned that some broken things stay broken... I’ve learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones...


"It isn't uncommon for people to hang on to what seems like a relationship with no future just because they had a great past in the early stages.  A person who cannot change the very fabric of their thoughts will never be able to change reality.  Quietly forgiving, moving on and letting go is a gift to yourself.   aVery often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene.  Readjusting is a painful process, but most of us need it at one time or another in our lives.   Create your future from your future, not your past.  Learn from the past, look to the future, but live in the present.  There are things that we never want to let go of and people we never want to leave behind.   But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.  Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future.   Concentrate the mind on the present moment.   You can't just point fingers at someone and blame them for your unhappiness just because the relationship didn't work out.   Never regret anything because at one point it was exactly what you wanted or needed.   What's done is done so why bother wishing you could have done this, or didn’t do that.   Just learn from what happened and move on.  For in the end, its all we can do.   The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.  Your eyes are on the front of your head for a reason, So keep looking forward, not to the past♥"


 

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