“FORGIVENESS FRIDAY” Reminder:
As we’ve all heard, forgiveness is ultimately the gift you give yourself, for if you are holding onto feelings
of judgment, revenge, persecution or anger, you are functioning at the
lowest vibration possible - a level that will not let you ascend to a
place of inner peace, love and gratitude - and who wants to live there?
And while you might already be aware that forgiveness is one of the most
wonderful things you can experience, it is not easy. To grow your
forgiveness muscles, we suggest that you start small. Acknowledge that,
in many instances, what you need to forgive in another person is simply
the fact that they did not think, say or do the same as you would have
in any given situation. You can forgive someone for not having the same
color of hair as you, right? So use that same logic when dealing with
personalities. You can also try to imagine the pain or suffering that
motivated someone to act the way they did – this will make it easier to
forgive them. Finally, make a lifestyle choice to not take things so
personally: If you do this, you will find that many offensive words and
deeds will flow THROUGH you without sticking TO you. Now, one suggestion
is to RARELY say the words, “I forgive you,” as this is very likely to
sound sanctimonious and just escalate whatever tension there was between
you and the offender. Instead, try using words like, “I want to move
past this, how do you see us doing that?” or “I know it was not your
intention to hurt me, but…” or “When you do things like this, it makes
me feel….” Of course there are times when a person really might intend
to hurt you, either physically or emotionally, and you will need to
address these on a case-by-case basis. If this person has no desire to
change their injurious ways, then this is the time to say, “I forgive
you for the pain you’ve caused me, but I will no longer tolerate it. I
love myself too much, and I will not keep exposing myself to the
suffering you inflict.” At that point you leave with no ill wishes for
that person and move on with your life. And as uncertain as that life
may be, at least you will know that it won’t include any more pain and
drama inflicted by the person you lovingly released.
Today’s breathwork/meditation suggestion: Take a few minutes right now to center and calm yourself. Breathe deeply and slowly, imagining that you can direct the energy of each breath into the 5th chakra/energy center located in your neck. It may help to visualize a color, so imagine a calming blue light flowing into your body and settling around your throat. As you do this, consider two of your most incredible powers: your right to choose and your right to act on the choices you make. While focusing your attention on your throat, remember that no one has power over you except yourself. Then, with a clear heart and mind, consider the person that is you. Are you acting in accordance with what you know to be good and true, or are you choosing to act in direct denial of your awareness? Your willpower and resolve are waiting for you to take a stand and live by what serves your highest good. If you have determined that some particular thing, person or habit is not healthy for you, you owe it to yourself to let go! Conversely, when you know what IS good for you, DO THAT GOOD THING! This is not brain surgery. This is simply you acting more frequently in accordance with your awareness, and the time to do this is right now. The throat energy center is the bridge between your mind and heart… keep it open!
Today’s breathwork/meditation suggestion: Take a few minutes right now to center and calm yourself. Breathe deeply and slowly, imagining that you can direct the energy of each breath into the 5th chakra/energy center located in your neck. It may help to visualize a color, so imagine a calming blue light flowing into your body and settling around your throat. As you do this, consider two of your most incredible powers: your right to choose and your right to act on the choices you make. While focusing your attention on your throat, remember that no one has power over you except yourself. Then, with a clear heart and mind, consider the person that is you. Are you acting in accordance with what you know to be good and true, or are you choosing to act in direct denial of your awareness? Your willpower and resolve are waiting for you to take a stand and live by what serves your highest good. If you have determined that some particular thing, person or habit is not healthy for you, you owe it to yourself to let go! Conversely, when you know what IS good for you, DO THAT GOOD THING! This is not brain surgery. This is simply you acting more frequently in accordance with your awareness, and the time to do this is right now. The throat energy center is the bridge between your mind and heart… keep it open!
One Minute Meditation ...
The article below is from this link: Feldenkrais with Conscious Movement http://consciousmovements.com/one-moment-meditation/
Now you might be asking yourself…”Why do we need to Meditate? Are there any REAL world benefits?”
Well my friend, let me just say that YES! There are many benefits to practicing meditation.These days it almost seems as if there are too many benefits to list. Rather you could just say, meditation can improve your quality of life all around. I know, I know it sounds like a fluffy catch-all. But the truth is, many studies are now showing that meditation can reduce stress-related medical conditions, improve your mood, and enhance your immunity. If that weren’t enough, meditation and mindfulness practices can also help you to learn to focus better, listen better, and make better decision. Families with children who have been diagnosed with ADHD, might even find meditation to be an effective management tool for family-oriented treatment of childhood ADHD. The list goes on and on, covering oh-so-many things of the body and mind.
For those of you who like the nitty-gritty research, well we are kin. So, I am providing a little list of place you can visit to get your academic fix.
For Me…
For me, I began awareness based movement practices and meditation around same time in my life. Both movement & meditation have becom like touchstones that I carry with me everywhere. Whatever is happening in my life, I know that I can instantly reduce my tension and find a calmer, more centered place within myself at a moment’s notice.For You…
If you have read any of my past article on Everyday Awareness & Mindfulness, like Take 5 at Sunrise or Move into Mindfulness, then you know I believe in integrating awareness based practices into our everyday life — EASILY. This video offers a great window into how you can start learning how to cultivate One-Moment Meditation. To build your skills, you will be begin with and be guided through a one minute meditation.Now because the more you practice, the greater your skill and the easier it will be to call upon this One-Moment Meditations in those moments you need it the most — I have compiled a list of Five Places in your everyday life you can easily take Just One Minute. That might friends, will give you five minutes a day, which is 35 minutes a week and 1,825 minutes a year.
Five Places to Find One Minute Meditation Moments
1. When You Awake - before your feet hit the floor, take one minute to meditate.2. In The Loo - for many people being on the potty is the only place they can steal a bit of alone time. So set your timer and hang out in the potty for just one more minute.
3. When You Arrive - do you have someplace you go daily? Work? Laundry room? Coffee Shop? Well when you arrive take just one minute. You can even open a book or a paper so that others think you are reading. But before you engage, simply sit and bask in the wonders of meditation for just one minute.
4. Before You Go - before you leave work each day, when you depart from a friend, or after the grocery store. Pause and take a minute. You can sit your car, on a bench, or just take just one more moment at your desk.
5. After You Say “Good Night” – when you snuggle in for night and prepare to great slumber, sense yourself and gift yourself one mindful minute.
