How To Deal With Toxic Relationships and move forward or put up healthy boundaries with dignity, grace and love :)

"It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew"

~Henry Rollins~

Especially family :(

" I don't regret my past I just regret the time I've wasted with the wrong people!"

 How To Deal With Toxic Relationships and move forward or put up  healthy  boundaries  for yourself with dignity, grace and love :)

3/12/13  Lesson today:  Don't be discouraged if there are days when you faulter and get sucked into someone else's negative drama.  Today is a new day.  Be grateful for the good days and also for the bad ones (life lessons happen every day).... and especially notice the fact that most of your days are filled with love and joy.

And when you defend yourself against other people's insanity you become insane too."  [LOL! this is what I did yesterday - it's good to be able to laugh at yourself,  we are only human after all]

So remember:  

3/14/2013

3/11/13

I often use this analogy with my clients....
Relationships, no matter whether it's personal or professional, are like joint emotional bank accounts. If both are not making deposits, or one is constantly depleting the account, and not making adequate deposits to replenish the account.....then it's time to take that persons name OFF that account. Shut 'em out...protect your emotional "currency"
Life is too short to share an emotional account with someone who steals from you !!  - Katie Maxwel-King
♥ 

 

3/11/13  My youngest continues to have some difficulty here and there about the odd family rift below.  He had to come home from school on 2/26 he was so upset about it all.  Since the latest incident below, I noticed him playing a song over and over called "Don't you worry child" by Swedish Mafia.  This morning I downloaded the song (it's catchy and fun -- thought it would be a good running song).  I listened to the words for the first time and couldn't stop crying.  I now realize this has been a coping song for him.  I love you Zack - I'm listening and Chris and I are always here for you, buddy -- don't you worry my sweet child, heaven's got a plan for you.

 "Don't You Worry Child"

There was a time
I used to look into my father's eyes.
In a happy home
I was a king, I had a gold throne.
Those days are gone,
Now the memory's on the wall.
I hear the songs
From the places where I was born.

Upon the hill across the blue lake,
That's where I had my first heartbreak.
I still remember how it all changed.
My father said,
"Don't you worry, don't you worry, child.
See heaven's got a plan for you.
Don't you worry, don't you worry now."
Yeah!

Link to "Don't You worry child"

http://youtu.be/r1MN4pR5wXM

Remember sons - What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger:  http://youtu.be/CH_dWijufDo

*Good info in link below on how to (kindly) deal with negative people

Click here:  How To Deal With Negative People - 10 Strategies

Here's another great article about Energy Vampires: Who They Are & How To Ditch Them.  Click on or copy and past this link:
 http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-7212/energy-vampires-who-they-are-how-to-ditch-them.html 

On grieving ...

 4/14/13  From a post on a friends facebook page today: 

"It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew"
~Henry Rollins~

Especially family :(
 

 "I hear ya on that...family I can lose, they eventually come back...but my best friend...that was very hard to deal with....I never got over it."

3/13/13

This is a Deep and Profound message ...
Let's focus on being Alive ... and cherish all the little things...
And all that we take for granted ... ♥ 

3/12/13 Two quotes on grief:

“Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time, you're driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life.”
― Dean Koontz, Odd Hours

“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
― Anne Lamott